So your friend has asked you to be a bridesmaid. Cue the champagne, celebration, and dress shopping! But before you say yes, consider that being chosen as a bridesmaid is an honor, and it comes with some responsibility. You can read below for some tips on how to be a great bridesmaid.
- It’s all about the bride
Remember, this wedding is all about your friend, her future spouse, and their marriage. You may not like the outfits she asks you to wear or the salon you get your hair and makeup done in, but that doesn’t matter! Your friend is putting a lot of time and effort in to make her day awesome, so try to go along with any crazy ideas she may have. Be a cheerleader for her and try not to be too critical of her decisions.
- Help her look good
Your friend is going to have a lot to worry about on the day of her wedding! Help her out by keeping things like bobby pins and extra lip gloss in your bag. Safety pins are always a good idea in case of a wardrobe malfunction too! Remind her throughout the day to keep hydrated, reapply lip gloss, and tuck away any flyaway hairs with those spare bobby pins. Wedding days can be so hectic, often brides forget to do these things for themselves.
During the ceremony keep an eye on how her dress is falling once she’s up at the altar. Make sure it’s spread out evenly and looks nice! She’s going to be in a lot of photos, and you can pay attention to the small details for her so that she looks her best.
- Be a helping hand at pre-wedding events
Usually it comes down to the Maid of Honor to plan things like the Bachelorette or Shower, but that’s a huge responsibility! It can be hard for one person to coordinate an event like that, especially if they’ve never done it before. As a bridesmaid, you can help by offering to plan aspects of the Bachelorette or Shower. You could offer to help put together a couple of cute games or keep track of gifts on the day of the shower so she can write thank yous. If you’re crafty, you can help by putting together cute DIY projects for the shower, bachelorette, or even the wedding day!
- Be Diplomatic
One of the most stressful things about choosing a bridal party as a bride is worrying about whether your friends from different parts of your life will all get along. Try to bond with the other bridesmaids, so that the bride doesn’t have something else to stress about. Is something in the bridal party making planning difficult? Try your best to be diplomatic with the other bridal party members without having to get the bride (or groom!) involved.
- Be a Stress Buffer
Wedding planning can be stressful, and the wedding day can be a hectic whirlwind too! Try to deflect any stress that you can for your friend. Did your alterations come in wrong? Before going to the bride with your problem, try to figure it out on your own so she doesn’t have another problem to worry about. Did someone bring a plus one that wasn’t supposed to? Rather than bringing it to the bride, bring it to the Day of Coordinator, or another designated helper.
The most important thing about being a bridesmaid is to make sure your friend enjoys her wedding day. It’s a lot of work, but is so worth it!
(Photos by Chris & Becca Photography)